Shame is dark and toxic. It makes us feel bad and convinces us we do not have choices. It puts us “in our place.”
Transforming shame makes us feel proud and confident. We realize we do have choices. We decide that we want to live from our deep, lively place. Our place is defined by us. Not our perpetrator, our partners, our parents, our church. We choose who influences us, and we intentionally define ourselves. We learn to trust ourselves.
I will be hosting a FREE live webinar - Healing from Shame on Tuesday, September 27 at 5pm Pacific and repeated on Wednesday, September 28 at 10am Pacific.
Back in November of 2012 I joined an online class taught by Martha Beck. The course, Find Your Calling, was uplifting and fascinating, but it was my first online training and I could not connect to the online community. I was just too lazy to sit there and type so I invited whoever was interested to meet in person.
Flying in Formation evolved from our first meeting on January 20, 2013. A small group of women came together because we loved the work of Martha Beck who taught us how to interpret our dreams and how to look at any household object and use it to find something new about the fight we had with our partner the night before. We were hungry for being with other women also searching for connection.
As I prepare for my last year on this earth, first I have to say that I am so grateful to have a whole year and this heads up. (OK, this is just an imaginary story – I am not dying that I know of. I don’t know how long I’ll be around, but I am creating this fantasy to look at what is really important to me.)
What would I want for my last year?
To do what I wanted and didn’t get to. To slow down time so that I can be with the birds in my garden. To plant one last garden and to watch it grow over another spring, summer and fall. To live on a beach for one season. To watch my friends and family live and grow. To see my daughter's face. I would have a week long party on the beach with all of you!
To write about my experiences. To have the opportunity to coach more people and teach Martha Beck’s and Brooke Castillo’s tools, that have so transformed my life. I would want to learn about how racism operates in me and discover how I can be part of a solution – one little part of a solution. One little understanding to add to all the drops of people who want love in the world; to partake in making heaven right here on earth.