Stress comes from a feeling of scarcity caused by your thoughts.
- I don’t have enough time to get everything done.
- I don’t have enough money for all the gifts I want to buy.
- I need to eat these special holiday treats because I have been working so hard and no one else appreciates me.
- I will miss out if I don’t eat these treats NOW.
- My family doesn’t appreciate me.
- Food is my only pleasure.
Other times stress comes from wanting to have everything perfect.
- I have to make this a perfect holiday for my kids.
- I want to make this holiday more special than any other.
- I want to buy the perfect gift.
- I want to create the perfect meal.
- I have to have the perfect party.
How about stress from judgments about other people?
- My brother is such a jerk at holiday dinners.
- My boss just doesn’t understand how busy I am.
- My friend doesn’t respect me.
- My mother is so critical of me.
You may have stressful thoughts about your past.
- I always have a horrible holiday.
- My family just doesn’t ever get me.
- My kids have always been selfish and never think of me.
The common thread through all of these thoughts is a feeling of not having enough, not being enough and not doing enough.
If I tell you that you have everything you need, you may react with hostility! I’m ok with that. This is what I know:
- You can learn awareness of your thoughts.
- You are enough.
- You don’t need to be fixed.
- You can love yourself.
- You can appreciate yourself.
- You can be happy with what you do.
- You can make a gratitude list.
- You can learn how to breathe when you feel stressed.
- You can learn how to change your thoughts about your life.
Some powerful questions you can ask. The answers will lighten your stress.
- What do you appreciate about yourself?
- What do you appreciate about your brother, your boss, your friend and your mother?
- Where do you value people over things?
- What kind of holiday do you want to experience?